Gazes: The Politics of Sex

April 25, 2014
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By Natalie Hartsfield-Crowe

 

He didn’t want to fuck

me from across the street. But

he did notice my fine gold fish net hair

then right

as he passed me, I peeked up and shot him my

“look.”

 

He was bold and knew exactly how to return the look

showing me he wanted to fuck

and I confess that it made my

heart race. My blush made him think I was 16. But

of course he wasn’t right.

People always associate youth with long hair.

 

Everyone said I looked older when I cut it – my hair.

Now I let the stuff billow out and it’s what earned me that look

and then he made the face that made me want to write

this poem about a young bottom lip he wanted to fuck.

I rub off kind of like high school but

I love being a late bloomer, it is my

 

sex weapon. I have a young face and my

hair, did I mention the hook, line, and sinker hair?

 

Women see men and speculate but

men can find lustful hunger anywhere they look.

And the only reason he wanted to fuck

me was he thought it wouldn’t have been right.

 

I wasn’t thinking if it was right

wrong, good, or bad, and my

mind wasn’t desperately imagining us fuck-

ing. I was just waiting for the reaction to my hair

and my pink color, to see his face; for an exhibitionist, the look

is everything, is enough. But

 

most of the time I am well-behaved. But

often I am not; for only a bad female would write

so long on so lustful a look –

and not on the effervescence of love at first sight, on my

look. One doe eye (no make up) peeking out of a blonde hair

veil, and it makes any man I give it to want to fuck.

 

Ha, he can kiss my perky round butt

and smell my long, fertile hair. Guys, remember this, alright? –

Girls who give “the look” rarely ever want to fuck.

 ******

This poem is unapologetically sexual. I believe females should be explicit about the politics of sex. In the U.S. heterosexualized society, I find it is common for men to look at women in overly sexualized ways.  “Good” women may look demurely down at the ground and let that gaze pass uninterrupted. However as I have come into my own sexuality, I have found it empowering to return these gazes with a look of my own—a look that is enjoyable to me because it allows me to be an empowered sexual agent in this game and interrupt his dominance. If a man can look at a woman that he does not know with sex in his eyes, then a woman should be allowed to return that look—a look that calls the man out, defies his look with their own sexuality, and interrupts any expectation to actually follow through with sexual interaction.   

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Hartsfield bio photoNatalie Hartsfield-Crowe is almost finished with her undergraduate degree in English at Portland State University and is excited to start adult life after graduation. She works as a preschool teacher for Portland Parks and Recreation. She loves to read and write – mostly poetry, and is beginning her work on fiction writing. She also loves living in Portland and taking daily advantage of all it has to offer – the coffee, the beer, and the trail runs.

 

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One Response to Gazes: The Politics of Sex

  1. Proud Father on April 25, 2014 at 2:15 pm

    Shocking,… But isn’t this the take home message?
    The “counterlook” seen more often see these days is a welcome sight to us feminist males, and allows us “Men” to shift gears and take a different view of our relationships. What is often overlooked is the fact that some men also want justice, but have forgotten where that path to justice lies. Heterosexualized culture has instilled in our male society a mortised encasement of emotional lethargy by which we fail to see the power within the feminist movement.
    So keep giving us the “look” and in time, we all will become empowered by the same source of human strength and justice, no matter what our sexual identity may be.

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